Welcome Back! Sounds like a great weekend. Still confused though - join the club. I thought it might help you to set up some small goals/steps or that you expect will either bring you closer to a decision or encourage your W to be motivated to work on the M. That way you have specific information to help you see things objectively. When I first started DBing, i actually made a list of small behavior changes I expected to see and every contact I would check off Y or N to that behavior. That way I could see a pattern and be more objective about what I was seeing. For example, one goal was to be able to talk and not argue - so everytime we had contact I checked it off Y or N. After a few weeks I could see that 2 out 3 times, we could talk without arguing - so it wasn't completely different but I could see the change. People are often reluctant to make changes so when making steps, take into consideration, what steps you would expect to see or hear that she is wanting to work on the R or not.
Relax tonight, you aren't going to figure it out now anyway -not worth feeling confused already.
