Quoting T2: What I still deal with is the lies, and the deception that my H was capable of while living his secret life and the realization that he is capable of such devastating dublicity. It will take years to recover from that aspect of the As.
Oh yeah...but it CAN be done...slooooowwwlyyyy....
Hi T2 so glad you found some inner peace with the change in your sitch, and for what it's worth I think your insights and intentions for taking it one day at a time, reviewing and avoiding what happened last time, etc.. are GREAT!!!
NOW, how's this for a totally different take on the cell phone...Note that I have a "thang" about reclaiming stuff that's been "tainted".
For example my white oversized man's cotten shirt that CJ wore in sexy photo he took of himself an sent to OW (who kindly sent it to me ). I wear it often, not a problem.
The phone: Well it was a birthday gift from me to CJ last Nov. He was supposed to be out "pricing DVD players" but after a lengthy "search" (on line and out on the town ) he came home with the cell phone instead.
Why a cell phone? For his future consulting business he told me. Should bells NOT have been ringing in my ears???
When I found out about OW a month later, I simply asked for the cell phone, changed the codes and it's been in MY purse ever since. ...I will NOT let objects rule my emotions!
(But Believe me, I KNOW how easily these things can become classically conditioned...that's WHY I try to reclaim them ASAP...that's what's happened to many of you...the item becomes so associated with OW, it ALONE can evoke the same dreadful emotions....the only cure...exposure to the dreaded object!)
Okay, okay, still not wearing my 10th anniversary ring, but I'm thinking about it!
). I wear it often, not a problem.
) he came home with the cell phone instead.
