I think you took my post wrong. I meant that you deserve more than you got, but that she may be giving you a baby step forward if this is not normal for her.
And, definitely I agree with the "facing her demons" and being depressed about it. In fact, for all you know, she said goodbye for the last time if she had continued contact thus far. So, I'm good with all that. I'm crossing my fingers for you. I've been the one in your wife's corner from the start because I know how she could be feeling....you were talking more that you weren't getting enough from her, how she is rude to you at times, etc. Usually I was defending her so you could see this other side. I think you finally see it. Now, let's hope she is really there.
