Maybe I should be in piecing part 6?

[Hope4us]

WDID. Thanks for the comment. But I have to disagree.

For her to acknowledge our anniversary is a huge step for her. Mind you, for my birthday in Jan she didn't even say happy birthday.

If she's still in WA mode, I just don't think she'd acknowledge our anniversary.

Was it the joyous response I'd love to hear? No. But given the way she's been and what a F'd up place she's in, I thought it was a step forward.

Everyone keeps saying I deserve more. I agree. But I'm a big boy. She did comment about what I got her. In her own way, she was thanking me.

Like I said the other day, her being down was probably from contact, but there is another possibility. Could be she's recognizing that she wants to be with me and is struggling with the guilt/pain of it all. WDID, you said it yourself, as did my friend D. That guilt/pain is almost unbearable sometimes, once you recognize what you've done.

Shouldn't I just give her a break with what I know she's struggling with and accept this as another small step forward? I mean, come on, she acknowledged our Anniversary. Her pride is a HUGE thing, and if she's figuring it out, I can see where she'd have down times. If I'm going to act "as if" we're going to make it until the transfer comes through, then I need to recognize a small step like this and build on it.

Sorry WDID. I just see more positive in the responses today than negative.