Positives Round-up Roping in a new R

[holdingon]

I am concerned about what you said. H doesn't get anything from me, except I act like his friend. When I don't he gets mad and threatens a D. I am not offering anything else. He doesn't come over, etc. He gives me nothing. I am just trying to encourage a friendship, to show him that I am not angry. Again, I feel if I offer an ultimatum, he will be gone to her. I know you gave your H one, was this after the OW? I am just trying to wait the A out. I don't see an alternative.