You help around the house, talk to her when she engages her, keep things light and happy (even though you don't want to), play with the kids and that's it.
Just adding one thing:
You need to learn doing this for you, so you feel happy. It has to be automatic. You do it, because you love to see yourself do it, not because you want your W to change her mind. It makes you happy, and if it makes your W happy, too, then that is an added bonus, but not the purpose of your action. Just keep hammering that into your mind, and eventually you will feel it.
The one thing I don't do around the house is clean the bathrooms. I know how much she would love it if I did, but even I have limits!
LOL
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
