T2, You are doing so well... you are so realistic about everything. I agree that you and H should sit down and try to talk about what this moving in means for him and you. Maybe bring to the table some ground rules (both of you) as well as a list of things you would like to see in the reconciliation. You are an excellent dber and I think you could get things out on the table, not in a demanding way, but in a loving way. I agree that him just moving back without discussing your feelings would not be good.
Obviously, he wants this reconciliation to work. I am also reading getting back together and it does warn of getting back too soon... but I don't think this applies in your situation. It also said that 80% of all married couples separate for 2 months or more... I thought that statistic was pretty awesome.
You KNOW that this next step will be difficult. Begin with a beginner's mind... be excited, have fun, and of course, BE PATIENT and persevere. Remember all of us out here that would LOVE to be in the difficult, trying position you find yourself in now. Limbo is over, darling! (and it's NOT October 19...)
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
