After a lot of introspection, IC, etc, I have a couple of things that I really would like to say to my W, but which I haven't yet because 1) It violates the no R discussion rule and 2) I am not sure how she would react. ... Any advice??
Thinker,
I have more thoughts on you latest posts, but little time today. If you want my advice, and something I wouldn't be the poster boy on, it's that do not talk about YOU, YOUR FEELINGS, ETC. Your W wants to see changes - and see that they are permanent. She wants to heal and feel better with you - especially if you are competing with an OM. She doesn't want to hear talk.
I assume you've given her at least one heart-felt apology already for the mistakes in your M. Most WAW's don't want to rehash things. Detach here too. Show her, don't tell her. Easy? No. But, essential. Give her space on the talk issue.
