I recommend reading the entire NMMNG book before trying to implement anything from it. Just try to understand the concepts contained within for now. Breaking free from being a NG doesn't necessarily mean not helping around the house, or doing things for your W.
Just read it with the goal of trying to understand your need to be in control for now.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
