As long as I focus on my W and try to change her, I feel powerless and inadequate, because I realize time and time again I cannot accomplish anything this way. I then start to feel resentful towards her and probably act accordingly or even worse, I become abusive. Anyone who is treated like that becomes resentful as well, and as an end result our M will go to he!!.
Even though I have known for quite some time, I am now more determined than ever to change myself. And with any luck, something that Gandhi once said becomes true for my M: "You must be the change you wish to see in the world."
- I read this in another thread and thought it was applicable to you Ed. Read it, think about how it applies to your situation, think about how you are feeling now consumed with thoughts of your wife every second of every minute, think about how much you are getting accomplished, think about your life and what you are using it for now, just sit down & think how everything right now is upside down and none of what you were doing was helping.
