sandycay,
I hope your surgery goes well. I can understand how difficult it must be for you to accept the feelings your H admitted for the OW. I have no advice at the moment other than what you know already: Patience..., time is on your side on this one.
xxx
K


Me&H:42
S11&D10
Bomb 5/2007-Sep 11/2007
Reconc.November 2009