LoveNoMatterWhat's New Thread

[FaithfulH]

I made a suggestion and she made the comment that I knew it was good because I took one of my girl friends there. She said it in a playful matter but me being the dumb a$$ I am, replied that she would know that I had a girl friend because I would not be talking/hanging out with her anymore outside discussing matters pertaining to our daughter.

LNMW,

I see that you got to meet 2 of our biggest enemies tonight.... "Fear" and "Manipulation". I know them well. Please let me share a bit about these 2 foes.

Fear would love to get you to believe:

• Your W is using you
  
• She will NEVER take you back
  
• She is holding her heart for somebody else (and may have given it to them already)
  
• You're just wasting your time....and life trying to win her back
  
• Nobody appreciates your sacrifice

Manipulation would love to get you to believe:

• Withdrawing your love will make your W realize what she is losing
  
• Telling your W you're done will make her come running
  
• Being a martyr will be attractive to your W
  
• If you think hard enough, you will come up with the perfect thing that will end this pain forever

LNMW, you know these are all LIES! The only thing that works is to truly let the changes God has put in you take hold deeply.....and be on the guard for attacks from the enemy! Your W is NOT the enemy! Only when you can endure a snide comment her or there will you know (and more importantly will your W know) that your HEART is new! This was another test...let's call it a pop quiz...and sorry, LNMW, but you didn't do so well on this one. But, this was not your last chance....you know what you need to do...but here's my advice:

1. Send a short text to your W telling her how sorry you are. Remind her that today is your first day of work and that you would like to call her tonight.
2. Go knock 'em dead at work
3. Tonight...tell your W how sorry your are and explain that you are still working on being the H and father that God intended you to be. Don't be needy. Explain that this is something that you and God are working on and you simply pray she will be patient and understanding. Tell her that she is worth waiting for...and you will be there no matter how long that takes....and MEAN IT! Do not expect a positive response!

LNMW, I wish I could tell you that I was sorry this happened...but, I firmly believe that God uses these situations to show US where our biggest issues lie. It is actually very loving that He cares enough to help us overcome our weaknesses!

I am rejoicing in your growth....the only thing that could make this a bad thing would be if you gave up....and even that would only be temporary because it wouldn't go away but simply lie dormant waiting to rise up again in the next relationship. I know you will deal with it now!

Best wishes for an awesome first day on the job! I start my new one next Monday, Mar 9th!