Bill, my post about being more passive aggressive meant exactly what you said. I agree with you 100%. I think if we "squeeze" enough a person's behaviors he/she will definitely fit in one of the labels existing, no doubt... There are some cases when people make a choice and use labels possibly to explain or justify, still they are making a choice and we are to respect that choice.
Honestly, in my life with H I made so many mistakes... Big ones,repetitive behaviors that were not...nice. He did too. With his inaction he seemed to be the person suffering more by my "overwhelming" personality, the truth was he was controlling our life by wanting less of anything/everything and my struggle was to convince him to want more. Ok, this maybe a bit confusing in English.
Anyway, in my country, these labels you are talking about hardly exist. We dont use them as much. IC/MC are not so popular and therefor good therapists are hard to find. So, I am not so eager to find labels for everybody, I am not familiar with these terms. I am more looking if my behavior of the past can be explained.
Forrest, I want to make a decision and be happy with it. I know I am tiring. It wasnt a test. I want my life to move on. I want to be ok, happy if possible. Too much damage is done. I think. Yes I would want him to fight for me for this "M" to stand a chance.
I am not fighting you when you tell me things that might help. I am listening. You said proceed with the D. I am thinking the same thing. Our difference, I dont see that decision as a way to motivate him. I see it as the end. K
Good Morning!!! NO work for me today. I'll be flying kites...
