Trying flirting on for size!

[ACJ]

Thanks Andabelle.

She came home about half an hour ago. Later than she should have. She's getting ready for school right now and is refusing to speak to me. True to form H did not accompany her in. He just sat until I opened the door for her and then drove off.

So I called him. I got his VM but I left a message saying she was refusing to speak to me and I hadn't got a clue what was going on and would he please call me back.

He just called. He is obviously working from home today. He told me that she has said she will go there for her tea tonight and then make a decision about whether she will stay the night there again. I told him that I didn't think that was a good idea as it was just prolonging the issue and wasn't getting to the bottom of anything. Of course he disagreed with me. I said she needed to know that part of growing up was about having to suffer the consequences when you overstep the mark. His reply was that I had had 3yrs to do that and I clearly hadn't suceeded. I was furious and I really don't know how I kept my temper.

I told him that she needed the stability in her life and this wasn't helping anyone most especially her. He said if she wanted to live with him that was her choice. I told him he wouldn't be happy until he saw me out of a home. He said that wasn't the case but I don't believe him for one minute. Eventually he said he had to go b/c he was expecting a call. I told him that I should already be at work but that D13 was more important. He wasn't having any of that so reluctantly I hung up.

Between them they have me over a barrell.

Do you think she might have engineered the blowup just to get his attention?

Most definately

What did your S say when you talked to him? Was he friendly or cold?

He wasn't happy that I had phoned him as a way to be able to speak to H. He asked why I had to drag him into it.

Right now I just want to walk away from them all. I'm hurting so much I can't bear to put myself in the firing line anymore. I'm beginning to feel like not having them in my life would be healthier for me than when they are. And now I'm crying again.