My first step out of Newcomers

[PositivelyMommy]

CIW, Hi, glad you are having fun, you deserve a good time.

I understand what you say about keeping a PMA towards M when everyone around you sees doom.. I felt very much that way when MIL came to visit. I think my H convinced her that there was NO WAY IN HEL* he could make our M works so she was trying to help him figure out how to separate and deal with his issues. In my mind, I thought, great help MIL, I am so glad I am putting you up in my house while you and H are planning our separation! But anyway, listen to your inner voice. You can't force anything to happen, to reconcile or separate/D. Be true to yourself because if you are doing something just because someone says to you to do it then you will feel empty afterwards.

That's why eventhough my H is convinced he doesn't want to be with me, I won't force him back. If he feels that strongly about that now then there is no way that he will come back to stay for good. But that is not to say that our M wouldn't ever work out, it just means that it's not the right time. So take it one step at a time, see how things are. See how your growth is, see if your W is growing and facing her own issues. Don't rush into anything and keep an open mind. That's what I'm choosing to do anyway.

BTW, I had a really good DB coaching session last week. Excellent, you may want to save some money for it, it really motivated me to do what is right, she helped me pinpoint what I should be concentrating on and it's worth every cent. Just a thought.