"Just my opinion, but there's WAY too much self-diagnosis leading to LABELS."
What is this? Bill.. finally "getting" it? (There was some sarcasm in that post)
I question if it is "self-diagnosis".. or just the "common" thought.
How much do we feed into the thoughts of others?
"Labels give us something to point our fingers at. They give us something to hide behind. They become rationalization for our actions."
And this is very clear.
Yet.. how do we stop.. rationalizing our actions?
Why do they need "it"? (rationalization)
"Choose whatever labels we want, the bottom line is that we all have a CHOICE."
And that "choice".. becomes.. who we are. I like labels. Not really sure why.. but I do.
I have been label'd .... well just fill in the blank with any negative idea you can come up with.
In the end.. that does not really matter.
If you can overcome the "label" you will go far in life.
"What it takes for an individual to find the motivation to change destructive behaviors is different for all."
Yet to me.. in that statement lies the "key" to winning.
The "destructive" behavior .. well.. it is just "in" us.
When we can "see" it.. we can change it. Never underestimate.. the power of YOU. Kalni.. has posted about.. all her powers. And yet at times.. seems to underestimate them. To me she just has not "rolled" it all together yet.
"I am upset I wasnt stonger when he said he wanted back"
You were just going with what you know.. and what you wanted. Where you not?
"I am upset I caused pain"
Why?
"I am upset I feel stupid"
Why?
"I am upset because if he came back tomorrow with an "I love you, cant live without you" theme, i will actually think about it all over again"
Are you being abused?
Please do not answer that question.
"I am upset because this is not healthy"
Yet you wanna fight me some when I tell you things that might help?
"I am mad at him for chickening out, again"
Hmm.. you had to add the.. again!!
"He wont even fight for me, fight for time, beg for understanding... I would beg steel and lie to get a second chance if I loved the person I hurt deeply."
Was this a test? Or did you go at this.. 100%. What you would do.. is not important. You have the job.. of making him fight for you.. cause that is what you want. You may have to "sacrifice" something to make that happen. Is that what you want?
"Choices"!!!
Above labels.
You have that choice.
"I am slowing down, regrouping at the moment."
Can I ask you to be clear with what you want after this time?
If it is only me supporting you.. I will do my best.
So long story short.. it seems a "choice" must be made.
Good Morning..
Smile.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
