as for the rest of your post, do you see how going dark works? Do you see how no contact works? If you don't, you are surely missing the point.
She is doing it to you and it's like drawing a moth to the flame. You are attracted to her, you are irresistably drawn toward her even though she is doing things that are wrong to you.
Why? Because she is limiting contact. She isn't communicating. She is going dark. And you... you can't help yourself, you need to know what she is doing, who she is with, what time she is coming home, etc. etc.
Indirectly, she is applying the technique to you and it works.
Apply it to her, the same way.
Who cares about her complaining about you being hot & cold - that's the least of your concerns. Seriously, $20 - $500, why is this even worth a discussion.
If she asked if you took the money, I would say "what money"?
You don't need permission.
You're an adult.
Start acting like one.
Stop obsessing over her whereabouts.
Start worrying about your whereabouts, ie. where you are going in life - seems like you're still chasing your tail. You're not applying any principles for long periods of time without faltering.
