Quote: He may be getting comfortable with the situation. It doesn't mean that the issues won't be resolved in the future. A future that does seem to be there for the two of you. Stop trying to control the situation. Look at the positives in your sitch, please. Several people on piecing did not have R talks for 6 months after the reconciliation... some have not had R talks at all. Stop worrying that your relationship is not going to make it unless you resolve everything NOW. As everything, it needs time. Your H is NOT riding the fence, he is giving to you, granted, not as much as YOU WANT, but you have a new R, take it SLOW, just like you would have in the beginning.
I'm taking it slow to, not making any demands. The difference between you and me is (and I have been thinking about this since our chat) that I think my H and I have said everything there was to say about the A, before he left. I don't want to bring it up again unless he feels he has to. The past is the past and I would like to leave it dead and buried! Right now, I'm would be happy if we would reconcile and rebuild our M. Trust is something that will have to worked on after the reconcilation. Forgive him? I would say I have pretty much done that, and that part of the process is almost at an end. Once I started the "forgiving" I moved along pretty quickly. I always could forgive and start rebuilding, as my H well knows I do! I think he is just waiting and watching. And even if he is still seeing OW, it doesn't matter right now. I know there are some that thinks "I'm nuts", but sorry my H is in MLC and the A doesn't mean he stopped loving me. Deb
