I had a meeting with my H today. He has 30 days! We met for coffee and he filled me in on what he is doing. Two hopeful things were mentioned - 1) he has temp sponsor who's sponsor was a friend of Bill W., 2) he is connecting with therapist.
He asked to start seeing each other, and to my surprise I noticed I was very tense and so I took a deep breath and told him that I was very tense about the idea. He then asked if I wanted a D. I told him that he was free to do what he wanted - I couldn't fight anymore with him and I wanted him to do whatever he needed to do for himself. He thought for a minute and then explained that he was being defensive. If I wanted him to wait then he would do that. He didn't want a D. I mentioned that we had unresolved issues - he said I know better than to go there with you right now. I was surprised again.
So we agreed to have no contact for 30 days. He also said, that while he would not call me and added for the first time he would respect my space unlike the past - and then he offered to be available if I needed him during this time unlike the past. We will see.
