Today's messages (and a couple from yesterday) from her asked questions about my two sons in response to me asking about D(1). She hasn't really given a crap about them for a while, so that would seem to be a good sign.

*However*

I had complained to her brother about her lack of contact and lack of concern about them several days ago. So not sure if this is because of that, although it did take a little while for her to come and ask after I'd mentioned it to him.

Other little things since S:
1. She slipped up and called me "baby" one morning when I was talking to her at work. I was shocked to hear it and just stammered with what I was talking about.
2. After spending a weekend with OM, for some reason she put her hand on my leg while wanting to show me a video of our D(1). I was sort of repulsed, and sort of confused why she'd do that. (She didn't know I knew at that point).
3. She talks about wanting to be part of my son's lives, yet she doesn't seem to have any concern over how they are going to take her decision. She always talked about wanting to adopt them, now she just pays them lip service.
4. She is apparently feeding her family the line that she wants to do counseling, etc. - but I'm not hearing any of that. So I don't know whether to believe b.i.l. or not on that.
5. Legal issue still going on. Going to get ugly I'm sure, but with NC I'm hoping that she calms down a bit.

"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."