Just my opinion, but there's WAY too much self-diagnosis leading to LABELS.

Labels give us something to point our fingers at. They give us something to hide behind. They become rationalization for our actions.

Choose whatever labels we want, the bottom line is that we all have a CHOICE. While I certainly am not saying that people need to stay in relationships that are dangerous to them, some of the seemingly worst marriages around are capable of healing.

What it takes for an individual to find the motivation to change destructive behaviors is different for all. No one should allow another to control their lives. But there is quite a large space between being free to live your life and being divorced.

K, I do not write this only or even necessarily for, you. I am seeing much posting lately pointing fingers at a label as reasons for giving up on a marriage. In some cases, the same label that was present when the individuals came here to try to save their marriages.

We should all strive to have enough confidence in our decisions that we do not require labeling our spouse with some "condition" in order to justify our new direction.

Again, just my opinion.


Blessings,

Bill

Last edited by Bworl; 03/01/09 11:00 PM.
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