Positives Round-up Roping in a new R

[holdingon]

Your reconciliation does not seem a failure to me. As everything, it seems to be moving too slowly for the LBS... remember PATIENCE? Someone on the bb said that it is VERY hard for the WAH to have the discussions. That when things are going smoothly (albeit in their mind...) the WAH may not want to "jinx" the situation by having an R talk. Yes, things NEED to be resolved. But, you have to take one day at a time, one moment if need be. You have come such a long way... BE PATIENT.

How can he act as if everythings honky dorey when there are so many things yet to be resolved. He is fooling himself if he thinks that 'silence' will fix everything or 'ignoring' the issues that got us where we've been are never discussed or worked on.

He may be getting comfortable with the situation. It doesn't mean that the issues won't be resolved in the future. A future that does seem to be there for the two of you. Stop trying to control the situation. Look at the positives in your sitch, please. Several people on piecing did not have R talks for 6 months after the reconciliation... some have not had R talks at all. Stop worrying that your relationship is not going to make it unless you resolve everything NOW. As everything, it needs time. Your H is NOT riding the fence, he is giving to you, granted, not as much as YOU WANT, but you have a new R, take it SLOW, just like you would have in the beginning.