Did you look at the links that Smartcookie posted on her thread? I thought the one about passive-aggressive behavior sounded a lot like your husband. Especially in the part about not finishing sentences.
And these people need to get over any idea that you are "scary". I keep thinking about that day he went crazy yelling at your son and you were hiding in the closet. He's scared of you? Not likely. The more I read, the more you and Smartcookie seem to be dealing with the same kind of problem.
