Kindergarten.. what a beautiful exciting experience for your daughter.. and the opportunity to go to school with her big sister.
Your ex spouse has definitely moved on from the marriage but the two of you do such an incredible job at taking care of your munchkins. You can't hold onto someone who doesn't want to be there.. but he's there to help and support. A very weird unique situation.
I don't think he's one upping you. He's living the life he's wanted.. something that started with his affair. He's doing the renovations, going out and about and probably feels like the two of you had the easiest divorce ever, an ideal one. I remember you writing long ago that he seemed to want everything he had, except the husband and wife relationship with you.
He's set up his new life and is 'free'.
You get to do the same, too. What was appropriate as a couple is no longer needed now. Your vacation is your vacation. His is his. Any time you spend pondering on his activities or involvements takes away positive energy for you and your daughters.
Enjoy the fun and the sun, being warm and relaxing. Being a mom is a lifetime commitment but not all of who you are.
Thank you so much nocode. Hope you had a nice day.
Journaling:
xH and I are getting along well, making decisions regarding kids and finances with no problems. He is very quiet about his life, and is visibly uncomfortable when I share anything personal about mine, so I don't do that anymore. He is supportive when I discuss work, or the house, but anything after that...he turns to stone and avoids talk.
I (gasp) am leaving for Florida this Friday. I told the girls and its slowly sinking in. Amazing how I can be so torn about going...you would think I would embrace a long weekend with close girlfriends, sun and a beach, huh? I am trying, know I should go, know I will enjoy. But still.
xH will be working when I head through the airport. He has agreed to get us through quickly, so I guess that's a perk, huh?
D7 lost her 7th tooth this weekend, of course it was a flurry of excitement and 4am wake-ups to discover the tooth fairy... All good stuff, all good stuff!
LWB Thanks for visiting my thread Im live in florida the weather here is great
nice to see you and H get along so well I too have gotton on well with stbx this whole seperation and those perks are always good and probably the best for the kids to see 2 D parentsd who can be friendly
peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I received your email. Thank you. My hope for you... ...is that you have a fantastic time on your trip. You'll miss the girls and they'll miss you, but you'll all be fine.
You sound good! You really do.
Again, have a great time....smile, smile, smile... . You're the best!
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
The trip was absolutely amazing! I can't believe I waited so long to get away with my friends. The girls did fabulous with xH and were happy every time I spoke with them. And of course I brought them gifts which smoothed over any bad feelings. lol I reconnected with friends, got a tan, drank fruity drinks and relaxed on the beach all weekend.
xH was very kind when I returned. Had the house stocked with groceries and laundry done. He notified me of a trip he will be taking over his birthday in April. I am amazingly detached, didn't think twice about his trip after he informed me of it. Feel differently about him more and more each day.
...is that you have a fantastic time on your trip. You'll miss the girls and they'll miss you, but you'll all be fine.
The girls did fabulous with xH and were happy every time I spoke with them. And of course I brought them gifts which smoothed over any bad feelings. lol I reconnected with friends, got a tan, drank fruity drinks and relaxed on the beach all weekend.