Good for you, Kerry! I'm glad you sent XW the message on the expenses. They should be split and if they aren't then she'll need to explain to the kids why their activities have been reduced.
Great work! That is exactly what I do w/my XW and she really doesn't have a leg to stand on either as it says we have to split expenses in our decree.
The Hawaii vacation sounds awesome! I too am jealous, but after this summer, I should be able to vacation again and I'm looking forward to it.