Life after exposure

[Still Waters]

That's what I was thinking too, Puppy. I have been completely dark for 2 weeks now, and doing really good for myself. I got a new job that pays better and is closer to my home, joined a local morning jogging group, and I've been going out with friends 3 or so times a week. But then this pops up, and I backslide mentally. I know I'll recover and get back on track, but it's another hurdle I need to deal with.

I'm going to do the same thing I did last time. Confront my W in person in a very calm way. Showing no anger, even though it's most definitely there. I just need to let her know that now that she has further broken my trust in her, and since she still shows no interest in working to rebuild that trust, that I need to protect myself, as you said, legally, financially, and emotionally. I think the time has come for me to talk to a lawyer and get better informed.

My W is showing signs of MLC with her behavior, and I don't want this affecting me financially. She's always been bad with money, and I imagine that will only get worse as she continues down this road. Also, now that I'm making more money (not more than her yet, but I have a feeling I will be making more than her in 6 months or so) I need to protect myself.

I'm going to give her the option of telling her family herself about OM#2 and my decision to protect myself, but if she balks I'll be the one telling them again. Her family is going to flip out. Especially since I dug a little deeper and found out that OM#2 has been in the picture since November. Which means she was involved with OM#1, OM#2, and me (all to varying degrees) at the same time.

Looks like my W is afraid of being alone (aren't we all) and doesn't want to put all her eggs in one basket. Because if she was truly alone, she'd have to face herself and the pain she has caused.