Life after exposure

[Still Waters]

Well it looks like my wife has started on affair #2. Heard some things from a few friends who saw her out with this guy, so I took a peek at her phone records and wouldn't you know it. The pattern is repeating. There was an explosion of text messages to OM#2 about two weeks ago, which is exactly what happened back in September with OM#1. She starts texting these guys like a teenager.

I feel like calling her up and saying "You might want to upgrade to the premium texting plan on your phone. It'll save you a ton on money, especially if you're going to be texting OM a couple hundred times a month."

I know, I know. That would be terrible for DB and I won't do it. Doesn't mean I don't want to though!

The new OM is similar to the old OM (I know them both through friends of friends). He's 31 years old and has never been in a long term relationship in his entire life. He's in a band that's going nowhere and he still lives like a college kid. My W sure knows how to pick em!

So the first OM eventually ditched my W, most likely at the end of January. Now she's after a new guy, who will most likely ditch her at some point too.

And now here I am wondering why I haven't filed for a D yet. My W has given me nothing but lies and crocodile tears. The last communication I had with her was 2 weeks ago, when she told me she was going to take the steps necessary to heal and forgive herself. I wonder which step was "Have another affair."

Anyone have any experience confronting your spouse a second time for a new affair? I'm done with exposing her to other people, but I don't know if I should confront her. I mean, this is ridiculous. I can't trust a single word she says, and this is after she told me she wanted nothing but open, honest, and direct communication between us from here on out. What she really meant when she said that was that she didn't want me to do things like expose her terrible behavior to her family anymore.

Ugh. The roller coaster continues. I know that I should focus on GAL, PMA, and LRT, and I am. But it's impossible to ignore this stuff completely.