I totally understand how you are feeling, T2. When I think about getting back with my H, I tend to think of the "good old days", not the past few years. I wouldn't want to go back to the past few years, and truthfully, that is what keeps me moving forward. I guess you have to shake things up right now. Is there a 180 that you could do? What did you enjoy doing together when you were at your happiest? I know this is hard, but at least you have the opportunity and the choice to save your M--I am happy for you!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)