Renee, You have to understand...your xh doesn't owe you any explanation for anything he says or does. You are no longer his concern. His children are the only thing that he needs to concern himself w/at this time (in his mind). What he says or does w/the ow is none of your business, according to him and his way of thinking. I would suggest that you not call him at all, i.e., 1 2 times a week is far too much when he's moved on. He has told you over and over again to leave him alone. If you don't, the restraining order will be put back in place permanently.
You asked what the difference was between a walk away and a mlcer. I believe someone has responded to your question on another thread that you had posted to.
A walk away is someone who walks away from everything and never looks back. They are finished the day they get up and will not reconsider reconciling at any cost. They are done. A mlcer is one who is very depressed and acts out in a very confused manner. He/she becomes the mirror image of the person that they once were. They tend to waffle a bit about divorce, separation and yes, they do leave quite a number of personal belongings behind from their past.
Two different "animals". No matter which one your h is, you still have to honor his wishes and leave him alone...only call him in a dire emergency. You have to take care of yourself and your child. He's gone and may be gone for a long time. No one can predict just how long.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
