To the mother ship: WHEN DO I GET MY HUSBAND BACK?

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Woke up yesterday to 5 inches of snow. We had 65 degrees on Wednesday. D12 had a bb tournament. H called and said he was gassing up the 4wd and could come pick us up and drive us all to the game. I said that would be great, but didn't he have baseball practice in the gym with s10? He said, oh yes, I guess we do. Said he would meet us there. Showed up late, said he thought the roads would be better, so he took his other truck----and had trouble with the ice on the side roads. (All makes perfect sense)

There was no offer to come help dig out our driveway, or any concern about me getting there in my mini-van. (We live in a rural area and have to mostly use small 2 lane roads to get where we are going-----they are often the last to be cleared.) So, I called a neighbor and asked if I could hire his brother (needed his number) to blade my drive. He said, he could do it much easier and would be over----I offered to have a check waiting for him. He said we would talk. It felt good to get it taken care of and not dwell on the fact that H wasn't at all concerned.

On the way home from the tournament got a TM asking if I would just pick S10 up from his place when we got back. I replied that we would be home in 10 minutes, he could meet us there. he was there when we got there. He came in. Spent some time with S10, talked a bit about the bb games with D12. On the way out he asked if the neighbor charged me for the drive. I said no, that he said we would talk later. He said good. That he hoped he wouldn't charge since he recently helped him put out a brush fire. I thought, how odd - he could make that leap about how the neighbor should help me out since he helped him out----no thoughts about how he should have been over here helping me get OUR kids out. But, that's what the aliens have done to him. He cares about no one but himself-----and the kids.

Now that ball season is really winding up, he will have the best of all worlds ----- practices are now scheduled so that he is with D15 on Sunday afternoon, and Tues. and Thurs. evenings. D12 will be on Wed., with pitching lessons on Sunday mornings. It will soon be Mon. and Wed. He takes S10 to the gym on Saturday afternoons. All that he wants-----lots of time with his kids----and I can't complain about practices because he helps coach them all. I'm sure it will make time with OW harder to arrange, so I guess that's something........

His b-day is next Saturday. I asked D's what they wanted to get him. They have no ideas. I know I won't be getting him anything. I will buy something for them to give him, but they have to have the idea.