Hey Regrets it is very hard, but don't ask where he was or what he was doing. Don't worry if he doesn't ask where you are going, he notices, but just doesn't say.
NO you can't control him or what he does. You can only control what you are doing in reaction to him....So don't react. Just detach and go on with your life. I know much easier said than done, by someone who doesn't detach well.
My H says I didn't do anything wrong...other than him thinking I had an affair, that I didn't have. I hate that too, because everyone talks about working on the things their S's have complained about, when you don't know what they want different you don't know what to do. So I don't really have any advice for you there.
Your mind will run away with you when he is out and you don't know what he is doing. My mind wanders all the time like that, since H is living with OW, but in little bits I have found out, it isn't all a bed of roses there either. So don't assume he is having a wonderful time without you.
Don't focus on him and what he is doing, just try and focus on what you are doing.
Enjoy your lunch! Try and relax, and like Kel says Breath!
