Congratulations Lisa, that is good news. Jobs of a specialist nature are pretty thin on the ground at the mo. Hope you enjoy the week end. All the spring flowers are out by me but I hear next week is going to be cold again. Yuck I hate winter weather.
Hey Lisa, hope you are doing ok, I am glad to hear you arent too upset about the tests.
I'm not sure why you were asking H for advice on that, but I'm sorry that he made no suggestions! Thats not very caring hey. Ditto work.. thinking back to how supportive you were of him and his CV and stuff, but then.. maybe he is a little jealous of CEO, who knows hey?
Its odd the 'friendship' you have with H, you say you are natural and honest, but then you also say you dont discuss feelings with him, just the facts and events with CEO (as in, you talk to H about CEO as a potential partner for you!??) and the aub is never mentioned.. so thats a kind of sort of friendship isnt it, but perhaps not turly yet, if you there are stlll areas of your selves/lives you cant discuss. But, seems there has been no acrimony or fading out of each others lives, which is a good thing! I am saying all of this as I wonder how me and my ex will progress to friendship if we dont reconcile, I cant imagine I would lose him from my life either after all these years, but I guess any friendship could only happen once all the emotion has died down.
So, you stopped posting for a while and now you have again, you dont mention any feelings in regard to H.. whereas before, you did always used to say that you still fancied him and admired him etc etc.. so have you turned a corner with that stuff and have you transferred your limerance to CEO !?? I am amazed (and a little jealous) you are getting to spend time with him for his birthday, thats just amazing after everything you've been through.
Well done on keeping your job!!!.. on the one hand though, you said CEO gave the position to you out of you and the other PM, but then you say, you're not sure you want CEO to be your part-time boss, do you get a choice then?? I'm confused! And.. if he is still your boss, he wont date you will he?! Thats no good!
Thanks guys! It is good news, although it's going to be a bit wierd being the only one left in the company especially considering how busy fun it was before. Still, I shouldn't knock it- money is money and if the project works out it'll do a lot of good.
The D papers arrived yesterday. Funny thing to have got them- I guess no matter how prepared you are it's odd and sad to see it all laid out in black and white. I requested for H to pay the court costs, and named the aubergine as the co-respondent. I do think he should pay as I didn't want to D or S originally and I don't think he'll contest that. At least I didn't request her to pay (it would never have occurred to me you could do that until the solicitor asked). We'll see what happens when he gets his copies, and I guess I should warn him they're coming next week when we meet (is it bad to do that during his birthday dinner?!)
Anyway, at least things are moving forward. Although it's sad to see the papers I do think it's not before time.
Hi Lisa, You are right we are never prepared for the finality of actually seeing in black and white what are heads and hearts have known for a long time. You seem to have a good solicitor, mine wouldn't let me go for adultery because it had been too long before I filed. I agree the least he can do is pay the costs and they soon add up. Thanks for asking about the knees they are improving but now shoulder is playing up, I guess I put my hands out to try and save myself and its just jolted. I will live-lol. I seem to have had a few falls later. I would say I should take more water with it but I was on my way to church, maybe someone is trying to give me a message.
Maybe telling spouse during b,day dinner is not such a good idea. I guess it depends if you want him to pay-oh I am so bad. Have a good week,glorious weather today just off to walk my mut.
Hey Lisa, not sure if we cross posted there, but sorry to hear about the D, but its amazing how gracious you are being about it. Could you email him in the week before his dinner in a kind of friendly neutral way, to warn him on the D papers, then you dont have to actually bring it up at dinner !?? Hmm.. Venus is going retrograde on the 6th.. supposed to be retracing of past issues in love and money and for Pisceans, could bring someone back to you from the past, but also, will bring up issues that were a theme 8 years ago, when Venus was also in this part of the chart (anything happen with you and H 8 years ago!?). I mention all of this, just as its his birthday, you are going for dinner and he gets his D papers and just as Venus reverses!
I'm glad you have work for a while longer! That's one thing you won't have to worry about for a bit, at least. Even if it means you are not traveling the world in the near term! At least you will be able to afford socks!
I think I like Ali's idea of emailing him about the papers ahead of time, though at the same time, I have a lot of trouble being too concerned about ruining his birthday dinner, too. Do what works best for you.
I think I have an idea of how you are feeling. I never expected or wanted to end up where I am, but now that things are moving, it really feels like it is the right thing to do. It's still sad, and scary, but I feel pretty calm about it. That's kind of what I read in you post, too.
I am sooo pleased to hear about your job, that is such good news! You have put so much into work the past few months so it is a more than just reward.
I can imagine it would be weird to see the d papers there in black and white, especially as it is something that goes against the grain or our 'core values'. If you ever want to call, you know you can. I was thinking do you need to warn him? You already told him you were filing - disclaimer - of course you have to do what you feel is right and you know him best, just an idea
Naej - sorry to hear about your fall. Have you tried arnica, it does wonders for bruising!
