ABM - Here's my two cents. It may sound anti-DB, and I really don't mean it to be. BUT - I think when the situation is like yours, you need to really ask yourself if it's a good idea to reconcile?
After all, you don't have kids yet. Is your ex REALLY the kind of honorable, trustworthy person you would want by your side in a crisis? Imagine having a child with a serious medical problem, for instance. Lots of crises come up in life; do you really want to face them with a woman who has already proven to you, EARLY in your marriage, that she doesn't have very strong moral fiber?
She doesn't sound like a good bet for the next 50 years. She just sounds like she got jealous when she saw you moving forward with someone else and wanted to dangle the hook.
