K..so I hate feeling like I have to start over again..LOL..hopefully I'm good to still be on day..ummm...11 tho I had to call hub last night about getting into my house and then had to talk to him today when he picked up my son..
HOW are the rest of you doing with your dark/dim?
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Even if you have to restart the count, that's ok. No one is perfect and everyone here has had to restart the count at least once (except maybe Silver Fox).
So what was the convo when H picked up S tonight? If you're going dark then you should stick to info about S, no chit chat unless he begins first. It's always up to you, but that's that hard line.
I guess I'm on day 2 since I sent xBF that email on Monday. Will also need to touch base with him tomorrow re: bank transfer that STILL hasn't happened! Grr. But that's business so it doesn't count. I'm ignoring the email he sent this morning.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
I agree, T, it doesn't matter that you have to startover, but that you become more aware of what you are doing. There will be times that we have to be in communication with H/W, it the extent that the contact goes which determines a "do-over". Business is necessary. Like my contact yesterday, I had to give him his part of the car insurance bill. I made it clear that I didn't have time to talk and politely kept up that point when he tried to talk.
Yeah actually all we talked about was the cable, since he is a technician he was asking me where all the equipment was he needed and I explained to him how I still had one box still in due to the tech not bringing me one..and then he was looking at the installation sheet I had gotten, telling me the easiest way to get another one..so totally all business, talked about when he was bringing son back, and that was that..
Argh {{{Pearl}}} about the money..that is getting a little annoying I'm sure and I know you don't WANT to have to contact him..grr with you!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Hey!...there is no starting again for anyone unless you made contact to say something pointless and soppy. If it was to do with kids, money, lost keys, stuff like that, then continue to count from day 1.
If I count that way (ie take out all emergency contact), I have now done 57 days. What a difference it has made as well. I am SO much happier to remove the stress and strain from my life.
I think my list works well for people living under the same roof, but then that is my biased POV (LOL).
What is your list and where can I find it? I am still trying to figure out this whole how to act while living together thing. Any help with that would be wonderful.
Me-38 W-44 D8 & D6 together '95, Wed '97, Bomb 11/18/08 Still in same house
Woot thanks {{Silva}} that I don't have to restart due to cable issues and lost keys..tho funny enough my hub JUST called my cell phone as we speak..but I didn't answer cause I was texting someone else..and, of course, didn't leave a message bleh..hate that :P
So that makes day 12 for me sweet..funny..my mom was talking to me this morning and was asking me some computer/cable questions at the office I work at/she owns. She said "well your hub would know these answers but I know you are trying to go without contacting him" LOL..cause I had told her about this DA Club we have going on..LOL..so I told her our rules were that it was fine for necessities hehe..just thought it was funny
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Good going, you are not alone. I continue to keep my contact to necessary things. I have a harder time than most because we work at the same place and our offices are next to each other.
When I can't avoid talking to him, I just listen. Avoiding R talk.
