I can't even say how frustrated I am by you going ahead and buying the trip. Why don't you just take your son, your W hasn't done anything to deserve one darn thing that you have done for her.
I hope she did get burned by the OM, she deserved that too. You told her if she had contact with other man and didn't tell you that was it, and here you are not even confronting. A simple is there something you think you need to tell me? should suffice. You set a boundary and then don't even defend it!!
Enough already.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory