Remember my x DID try to kill himself.. left the note, everything. AND after that and until last summer there were OFTEN threats of this. In regards to him (not your kids) him.... he needs help and all you can do is listen and then SUGGEST COUNSELING and you would be his FRIEND through it (if he needs that and if you can handle it!) BUT DO NOT LET HIM put this garbage on you!! I have dealt with this SAME garbage through my stitch.... and it is TERRIFYING and the GUILT is unbelievable.... BUT I USED MY C over and OVER throughout and we made a plan.... if there was a time when I REALLY thought they my x would try i was going to call 911 and tell them what he was saying..... then it is up to them.
in regards to meeting him. YES GO! IN A PUBLIC place - but in a place where he will have the ability to talk to you openly. I will pray for you.... I am so sorry you are goign through this.
Your son didn't tell you and that breaks my heart - I am so very glad your daughter spoke up!! BRAVO BRAVO!! (i mean that!!) If you can get your kids into c i would strongly suggest it---- give them that safe place. THE LAST thing that they need is to feel the RESPONSIBILITY of his life....
sorry to rant on about this one my friend. THIS IS serious stuff!! All the choices he made are smack in his face. I agree with Cinders.... be still - be quiet and listen...
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Trusting, This is weird. I've always followed your thread because we seemed to be in similar timeframe.
My H said he wants to meet, too. I have not gotten the desperation that you have and really I think H is still on the "be friends" thing so he doesn't have to feel guilty. Anyway, that is on my thread.
Your situation is different. Be kind, be soft. Leave first.
And I definitely prefer to meet in a public place myself.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
This has been a very scary last couple of days for me.
My kids and I developed a plan of action to protect them.
If they are at ex's and he starts ranting/raving or talking about suicide, they are to text me immediately.
We will determine by the degree of things if we should call 911.
If they feel the least bit scared, or concerned for him, I will pick them up. I am 5 minutes away.
My son is not with him this entire week due to school functions, so I know he is safe.
My daughters are at his place until Sat. night.
I talked to my daughters tonight and they stated ex is very happy tonight and seems close to normal.
I will be meeting ex Saturday at 6 p.m.
I will decide by the feel of things if I need to discuss his current behaviors.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Me and my 14 year old text constantly to keep in touch regarding ex's current behaviors.
Ex is talking a lot about his childhood to the kids.
Other than that, they say he is looking forward to seeing me on Saturday..... WTF
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ex stopped by, inquired how I was doing, and then left.
It was nothing less than weird.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
