Slowly but surely - detach and 180

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Still need to work on validating her feelings. Another opportunity missed this morning.

We took DD's to see the new 3D Jonas Brother Concert movie this morning and on the way out my D8 asked if she could call her Grandmother (who is taking her to the city for the night). I thought I heard W say go ask XX (Me) for her phone. Well it turns out that she actually said wait until we get home. So I offered D8 my phone to call my mother. When we got in the car W said why did you let D8 call when I said she couldn't. I immediately appoligized and said I didn't hear her say she couldn't call. And W was obviously still very pissed. I could have used that situation to validate her feelings and say "I understand how frustrating that would be." I have to remember this.

It was otherwise not a good or bad morning. Still a lot of anger/anoyance from W. It does start to make me pissed but I am getting good at not letting that show at all and I am trying real hard to not get resentful and remember that she is angry and mean because she is hurt and I need to be patient.

I have another opportunity tonight when we take D6 for ice cream and to rent a movie. We are spending special time with her since D8 gets to go with Grandma to the city.

I will keep it in the front of my mind to listen and validate her feelings and not let her push any of my buttons.