It seems to be working.... sometimes #2

[addie]

Sandy,
I am sorry things are not going well.
You mentioned H would not do IC but have you two been to MC at all(I've read your sitch but can't remember right now)or Retrouvaille? That may help the two of you get back on track. As other posters have pointed out, H chose YOU and remains with YOU. He may have lingering thoughts of OW but I doubt it is LOVE.

I hope your surgery goes well. Keep us posted when you feel up to it.