Wow Delia, I was thinking about you the other day, wondering how things were going in your world!
Please do update us when you have the time.

Yes, I would say that it's amazing to me too, how long the situation can sustain itself.

We did have a breakthrough of sorts, I've been served (kinda, actually he just handed me the papers, I signed & handed them back.)
I included this letter in the envelope; (Thanks Puppy!)


H,


I'm extremely saddened and disappointed that our marriage has come to this, but in view of the current circumstances I must move on with my life. The last year & a half has drained away much of my love for you, and the latest step has all but snuffed out what was left.


As you know it was NOT my desire to divorce, but I can now exit our marriage with a clean conscience, knowing that I gave it everything I had to try and save it. While you may not have agreed with the way I handled some of my efforts, I did, nevertheless, give great effort, and I hope you will realize one day that everything I did, I did to try and save our marriage, protect the children, and keep our family intact.

I have no regrets.

And I will continue to fight for what I believe is in their best interests, as well as to protect myself.

I must now move on. As much as I WANTED to be married to you, I realize now that I no longer NEED to be, knowing how you feel about me and knowing the things that you've chosen to do. I do pray that you'll find whatever it is you're looking for, and that you'll do it in a safe and healthy way and somehow allow God to be in the middle of it. I do very much still care for you, and genuinely want you to be happy.


Sunny


That was on the 19th of this month & since then I haven't really spoken with him except to confirm times regarding the kids, etc.

He doesn't look very happy, but who's to know. I've been doing whatever I have to do to keep positive & busy, which is no problem with taking care of my mother until she can walk, having the kids 90% of the time & now getting all the legal stuff in order. Not much different than most of us here I think.


"....with signs of light, followed by defeat, followed by light..."

There have been a few "Are you going to be around this weekend?" that I no longer respond to because someone had to break that pattern & it didn't look like it was going to be him.

Anyway, nice to hear from you & thanks for dropping by!

Hey K, the weather is just starting to get nice here....we'd have a great time I'm sure if you find a way to make it for a visit!

Sunny


M-7 yrs
together-8 yrs
S-4yr
S-15yr

Bomb-4/25/07
Sep-same day
me-49
H-49

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