Sometimes if they can't fix it, that makes them feel like a failure in some ways. My H and I have never been the type to tell others if we have problems, but everyone comes to both of us with their problems. My H didn't feel like he was doing right because he couldn't figure out how to fix how he felt, and because he didn't talk to others about us, he felt even worse. It was the typical EA set up, he found someone else who was having problems and she began to talk to H about the problems she was having with her BF and him being abusive, H opened up to her that he felt I had an affair, and it just grew from there.
My H says I am still his best friend, and in some ways we still are..., I don't know. That is where I am not very good at this, as I have set a boundary to him about seeing her and I. It is complicated...well in my head anyway.
It sounds very positive to me that he is willing to work with you and go to C. That is a plus, IMO.
I do understand what you say about feeling comfortable with each other, it is hard. We have never had problems talking, I am a talker, but there are times, where there is silence. Living in the same house, when it got awkward I would try to find something else to do in another room.
You can always GAL. Remember you want to take care of you and make you feel better, a happier upbeat you makes it easier for H to notice that you are someone he wants to be with. If you don't end up together you are learning to live a life for you and not for someone else. I am still working on this one, trust me! It isn't easy, but it is something that is good for you no matter what might happen!
Take care Regrets and rest. Kel is gone this weekend, I am no where as good with advice as she is!
