T2~
Your last two posts were interesting and thought-provoking.

The insight into the "cheater's psyche" was amazing...I am sure it will help many who are dealing with this sitch. I think the same thinking can be applied to a man in a MLC!!

I know how you feel about the wedding...I havn't been to one since all of this occurred, but I am sure I wouldn't be able to sit through one with dry eyes. I think it is great that you are thinking about what it will take to truly get your M back in shape.

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I know that I need "proof" in some way or measure that my H is JUST AS commited as I am this time, or I can not accept a watered down version of what we originally promised one another so many years ago.

I think we all feel this way, in one way or another. IMHO, if you get that commitemnt from BOTH partners, then your M will be STRONGER than it ever was before you started!!! Sounds like something to look forward to....we have learned SO MUCH from these experiences!!!

Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)