FIB, really, your wife is not worth your time or your thoughts.
Go back to basic dbing. Focus on you and your kids. What makes you happy? What new things are you going to try out?

You did your best, above and beyond. Your wife does not realize what she is giving up, the damage she is doing, how much her actions are hurting your beautiful children.

But, you cannot do anything about her or her actions. You can only control you.

So, try, my friend, to seize the day. Try to always give extra hugs to your kids and really try to find what holds you interest, what brings you peace, what puts a smile your face. And let your w blow in the wind.