You know I think we all wonder about those thoughts.
Quote: The vows reminded me of what my H forgot. I wondered as I sat there listening to the ceremony how would we (my H & I) really 'recapture' that kind of commitment after all this damage, and I'm not sure we can.
I feel as though we've made a mockery of those marital promises we made to each other so many years ago. I fear that those 'words' for us are somehow meaningless now.
I wonder if there really is a way to 'go back.' I wonder if the bridge we've crossed these passed two years isn't collapsed.
Can any of us ever regain our sense of wellbeing and comfort with our S? Can we truely feel loved and secure in that love? Will it ever last or are we doomed for failure again?
It's obvious 1 party wants to work at it and goes the extra mile to keep the M (or at least the R) going. But what about the other party? Is that S always going to "cop out"? Are they ever going to put forth the effort we do???
I'm not trying to dampen your spirits...I just wanted to say I think alot of us wonder about those things every day we get out of bed. Are there any "graduates" of DB'ing that have totally succeeded and are still happily M today? If so, we could stand to hear from them.
Sorry to hijack your thread. Take care and God bless. ~~~Debi
