To the mother ship: WHEN DO I GET MY HUSBAND BACK?

[Sanderika]

Hello Ladies.....

My H left such a long time ago.....but then again not really, he won't let go. Actually he is fence sitting and won't let go of either side. I do not want the D so I will not force it. I want him home he still seems content in MLC land and OW gets all his good time and attention.

We have had 3 court dates:
1st one (11/18/08) H postponed (work conflict - He drives a truck for a living)

2nd one (1/13/09) my L postponed (case conflicts with the court schedule)

3rd one (1/20/09) H postponed (told the judge he wanted the M and to R it within 6 months - she granted him the postponement to July 20, 2009 she said she would rather a marriage reconcile than D in her courtroom)

When my H moved out he only took clothes and not all of them. The rest of his stuff is still here and over the past 42.5 months he has even brought more stuff over to store in the cellar or barns. I know he still considers this property his. The facts are that he left it years ago and I stayed and it is mine more than his now.

When my H moved out he wouldn't have anything to do with son or I for 4.5 months and then he slowly started to come around. He has maintained the same activity since Jan. 06, son only recently started to get invited on a regular basis to H's activities. In the past month son has been invited with H 3 times and that is a record for sure.

Historically I see or hear from my H once in every 7 to 14 day period. There is no consistency to his calls or visits. 9 out of 10 of his visits here, he hides his vehicle from view from the road. We have two barns and he usually parks behind one of them.

It dawned on me a couple of months back that I am officially my H's mistress. It was after receiving a christmas present from him. It was the first gift H had bought me since 2004.

My H and I own a great deal of property and a corporation. I am trying not to believe that he is hanging on only for the sake of "his" assets and doesn't want to lose any of it to me.

I am sitting here very low today....I truly believe H is having another change of heart with his decision. It would be something like his 29th change of heart. I am not kidding here!!! This MLC crap appears to have no real end in my world.

TCBTE and TOH, I have read about both of your sitches and followed along. I am reluctant to offer advice and post to others because I don't have "it" figured out at all. I do know we have very similiar sitches and we can find comfort from each others and who knows it might help out if we converse on our day to day stories, if nothing else it is support from people who can share your highs and lows in a caring and concerning manner.

I wish you both well....and you are in my thoughts....we need friends during all of this and the support here is priceless.

Sanderika