My H was gone almost 2 years. No we never D'd but he threatened it all the time and he looked for L's.
My understanding of a WAS is that they walk away and never look back. MLC spouse have to make their journey by themselves. In their minds they are through with everything, spouse, kids, anything that holds them down. They don't want any responsiblities of any kind. They spend, spend, spend. Almost always there is an ow in the picture. As they work through things in their minds the fog begins to clean for some of them. Some never get out of MLC.
