I have a question... when W & I separated, we sat down with our kids and told them we needed some time apart. We also told them that we would still do things together as a family, and we would try to do something once a week all together. We did that for the first few months, but after W told me "Can't you just stop, don't you see you're just pushing me away", I have been following the DB principles, not pursuing, etc.
I was talking with S11, who is having a really tough time adjusting to this, and who has been shutting me out to protect his feelings. He asked me why we're not doing things together as a family any more. I didn't really know what to say, so I said "Is that something you would like to do?". He said "Of course" and then started in on questions that I just couldn't answer.
"Are you and Mom going to get back together?" "Are you going to get a D?" "When will you know?" "Would you tell us before hand, or would it be like when Mom got the apartment?"
So my question is, what do I tell the kids? "I don't know" only goes so far, and I have no idea what W is telling them. I don't want to bring it up in discussion with W because that would be R talk, yet I feel like we're doing the old 'sweep it under the rug and pretend it's not there' routine.
Should I suggest the once a week family activity to her that we said we'd do? Should I suggest to S11, "Maybe that's something you should ask Mom"
