I was beginning to think I was the only one that has been at this this long (2) years and still sep. and not D. Your sitch's sound so simular to mine. I too am trying to stop contacting him. It is so VERY VERY hard for me to do.
H and I continued having sex up until the first week of Dec. It has stopped now. And I really don't see it happening again for a very long time. If ever again.
I have done all the new haircuts. Lost 50 lbs. New clothes. Kept myself up in his presence. Etc... H doesn't comment, seem to even notice. It's like nothing I say or do matters to him anymore. I feel I've tried absolutely everything. It's so discouraging.
One night last weekend and last night H calls just to talk or for a dumb reason.??? (He NEVER calls) Right away I am thinking that he has plans with OW and checking if the coast is clear. As he asks what I and the girls are doing. Then a tiny thought, maybe he wants to ask me to come in. He doesn't ask. So my mind runs. Last week I told him what I thought. He denied. Last night I let it go.
My H like yours doesn't seem to care about anyone that has anything to do with me, including our D's. He told me again recently "I don't care about anthing, I don't care about OW, I don't care about you, I don't even care about myself!". This is the ONE thing I believe from him. And it is so sad. He is so not the man that I have loved for so long.
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
