Trying flirting on for size!

[ACJ]

I got another call from H yesterday. It looks like it is becoming a weekly occurence. It was about the D again. His L is still pushing him to pull out of negotiations. He doesn't seem to want to do that and we discussed how crazy that would be. I gave him a real life example of someone I know who has recently done just that and told him what thier total expenses came to. He did say that both our Ls seem to be just prolonging things to get money out of us and I have to say that as much as I like mine I do agree with him and I told him so. I agreed to ring her and find out what was going on. I did just that and she told me she had sent faxes on Feb 5th, 16th and 20th and had not received any reply at all. I phoned him back and told him this. It's literally like cat and mouse.

We also spoke about D13 as it was her parents evening on Thursday and despite being invited he did not come. He explained that he had been interviewing in another area of the country and hadn't got back until late. I mentioned that I had emailed him a precis of what all the teachers had said and he said he had seen it and had replied. I was a little worried that he would have taken it the wrong way (as he seems to have always done with emails over the last 3 yrs)as I had mentioned what a shame it was he couldn't be there as it was an important event as she has to decide what subjects to take in national exams in a few weeks time. He didn't show this on the phone but when I got home in the evening I did look and remarkably he had thanked me for the update and given an explanation as to why he hadn't been able to make it. I know it's too late for babysteps but this was a massive one!

We also talked about S16 and I told him I hadn't seen S16 for 6 weeks. He said he knew that and had already discussed with S16 that he should make more of an effort to see me. He said he would try again and I thanked him.

It was all very surreal. He was nice and it felt just like the 'old days' when he would ring me from work just to chat. He was clearly working from home as the number on my mobile told me this was the case. To be honest I only answered it b/c I thought it might be S16 ringing me.

When I read his email I noticed on his email signature that he is now being open about the very recent promotion he has had. He told the kids he was only acting up but his signature does not say that. Anyway I needed to let him know in a couple of weeks there is another evening at school for D13 for her to find out exactly what each subject will expect of her should she decide to study it further. I made reference to his email signature and said that I was glad that after all his hard work and perseverance at trying to get a senior job in his company that he had clearly finally succeeded. I told him I was proud of him (b/c I am). All I have left now is kindness and friendship. I hope he sees that this is all I have ever wanted (as a minimum).

I'm glad we are able to talk to each other in a civil way at the moment and I'm even more glad that we are able to discuss our children from a 'singing off the same hymn sheet' perspective. It just saddens me that he clearly still wants a D and I presume to marry OW