Well, I just got another email. I'm not sure if she did this or if my ex did this. Here it is:
Just set up the final $1500 pmt. to you. BTW – just finished taxes for 2008 and had to show alimony payments to you with your social. Hope you claimed the income.
LT
I don't know why they would think they had to send me something. If I didn't claim that then that is my problem not theirs. I'm just not sure what that is all about unless he really sent this email & she did all that before. I'm not sure. I'm pretty depressed this weekend anyway, my parents were supposed to come this weekend but the weather is bad & we are supposed to have snow tomorrow. So, then I get this on top of everything.
Thanks for letting me vent. What do you all think, did he send this one? He usually doesn't sign it LT to me, but I'm not sure this time.
n, I think your h sent you this last email. I also think he's just letting you know that he claimed it as alimony on his taxes. He's the the "business" mode right now. I have a feeling that his paying you alimony really burned him up. He had hoped to be free and clear of you and I think what he wrote is just letting you know he's happy it's over and he doesn't have to give you any more money. You know what I'd do? I would send an email to him and thank him for setting up the payment and the reminder about the taxes. Keep it very short and business-like...just like he did.
N, please do not allow this note to bring you down. I know you are depressed, but you've got to let him go a bit more. He's on a journey not only on this earth but on the Mother Ship as well. He's got to complete it and with the final payment being made, he may now be able to complete it without harboring a lot of resentment towards making the payments. Let it go....he's a lost soul for now.
I saw where you will be getting some nasty weather...we are due to get it this evening/tomorrow. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
It's actually not the last payment, he still has 2 more years to go, it just drops to 1000.00 beginning April 1st. That's why I'm not sure he sent it. He knows how good I am with taxes & books. He was very angry in what all I got in the divorce, house, dogs, alimony & also he had to pay the lawyers.
I'm better today, I think she wants me to respond. He normally wouldn't sign it LT to me, he usually signs his name.
n, You have two choices...1) remain silent and look ungrateful; or 2) respond in a very courteous and grateful manner. If you do the second choice, just say "thank you for the information" and let it go.
I'm still not convinced that he's not the one that sent the last message. Yes, in the past he's now signed the email, but they do go through a business like attitude during the crisis and sign everything differently. Play along for a bit...if you don't react, the individal will slip up.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi Nlt, Glad you are feeling a little better today. Eventhough the email was very business-like, it gives you a chance to make contact with H. I agree with Snodderly. Respond in a thankful and courteous manner, nothing more.
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I'm all right, we got a little snow but it went south & my parents got more, they are 150 miles south of me.
I'm feeling better. I had a rough weekend but I prayed a lot & I do feel better today. I also prayed about this email & I really feel that OW sent it & I'm afraid if I send something back she could turn it around & re-word it any way she wanted to & let me ex see it, so I feel it is best just not to respond. I may be wrong but that's how I'm feeling right now. I don't trust her & she would get the email first, my ex would have no ideal that I emailed back.
I'm still looking really hard for a job. I spoke with a man today that said he would like to hire me & he needs someone but he doesn't have the space. So, he is looking for more office space but I don't know when that will be. He told me to go ahead & send him my resume & if he hears of anything he would let me know.
Regarding the e-mail, I agree with Snodderly, it seems to me that your H has written it this time, not her.
But I also think you have to trust your gut feeling and go with what it tells you.
I hope you're getting a job - and a nice one - soon, keep my fingers crossed for you.
(((Hugs)))
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
No luck with the job hunt! I did talk with a man on Monday that was interested, so I sent him my resume. He said he does need someone but he has to find more office space. He said he didn't even have a place to put another desk. He said he would look at my resume in about a week, because he didn't have time right then. So, I'm hoping after he looks at it that he just can't do without me! ha ha! Actually, he knows my reputation around here & is very interested. When I called him he was out to lunch but you know he called me back in about 30 minutes so that was impressive. Maybe something good will happen soon. I need something good to happen.
Well, I didn't get my alimony check today either. It's supposed to be here by the 5th & it's not here. I assume I'll get it tomorrow.
My parents are coming for the weekend & a few days next week so I'm glad about that.
I hope you all have a nice weekend. Thank you for checking on me!!!
