Of course I know you're absolutely right, afterall, this is reconciliation attempt #2. He moved home in Nov. '02 and from day one till the day he left again late April '02, I dished out daily beating with the guilt stick, so I KNOW that rehashing the same old crap does nothing but damage any attempt to 'move on'
That is exactly why I get angry at myself now when I do the rehash waltz because I KNOW BETTER and I still did it.